Worth a thought...are you too picky?

I've just read this article on yahoo.com and think quite a few people out there should consider reading it...I know it's related to online dating, and not dating in general, but the same principles apply if you ask me.

"Limiting our options with a narrow search

We all have dreams. We all have standards. We all have ideas about how it's supposed to look. But when we remain trapped in our fantasies, reality suffers. And nowhere is this more apparent than in the online dating space. Because of the perception of choice -- just pop in some search criteria and dial up a spouse! -- we think we're being open to lots of people. In fact, we're narrowing our search far greater than we do in "real" life. (...)

In real life, if you start talking to someone at a party who is intriguing, you'll probably get a phone number and set up a date. You may not find out until later that he's a different religion, or political party. This is exactly what happened to me. I set my online search criteria for a 25- to 36-year-old Jewish liberal with a graduate degree. I remained single for the greater part of eight years. Then I went to a party eight months ago and met a woman who is 37, Catholic and Republican. We've been together ever since. The moral of the story is that none of us knows anything. (...)

So what does all this mean? Are we doomed to a life of solitude and loneliness? No. We might have to adjust our perspective a bit, though. First of all, it reminds us how hard it is to find somebody special. (...) Second, it reminds us not to be so narrow-minded in our searches. (...) Until we give others a chance, what hope do we have that they will give us a chance?"

May I introduce...

Carissa Simpson, haha. Got this from Zuzka's blog ("Simpsonize Me"), thanks Zuzi ;-)

Four days

As I am very tired (obviously because I am still awake), I wish I could just write four words to summarize these past four days, or post four pictures to try to recap everything. I don't think it will work, but I will try the first:

1. Reunions
2. Family
3. Frustrations
4. Sleep
   

Note that none of the above are related at all! Well, okay, I might as well explain myself:

Reunions: Technically, it started last Wednesday, seeing Aïda again, having dinner together ;-) Then, on Thursday, I met up with Natasha in Basel, and also saw Anne again there, my "oldest" friend (not agewise, I mean that we've known each other since we were nine years old and are still in touch. What's the proper way to say that?). It was a really really great day, with two wonderful people. Today, on my way back to Geneva (I went home to Lucerne over the long weekend, the office was closed on THU and FRI), I bumped into m elementary school sweetheart, on the ship (yes, I also travel by ship. Or is it called motorboat?) ! It was so amazing to talk with him, I think it's the first time in, what, ten, twelve years that we actually really spoke? Or maybe the first time ever? Don't laugh, because yes, that's possible. I was extremely shy in elementary school, we never talked then, all we did was exchange little love letters, hihi. Afterwards, in high school, we never spoke I think, just said hi in the hallways. Isn't that a coincidental encounter of the extremely cute kind? We then even took the same train together, and continued talking, about all kinds of things. Every time we mentioned other "exes" we really had to smile :-) Looking back, I count myself grateful once again, for such fond childhood memories! All those Summer camps together with pillow dances at the parties, dance classes, holding hands, the shy kisses and such innocent puppy love, haha. If you're reading this: Good luck with the thesis, and hope we'll keep in touch!

Family: Food, food and more food. My Dad the grillmaster, the yummy meat, the great laughs, the gorgeous weather, the kitty-cats running around, the delicious and heavy chocolate cake for dessert, my little sister and her boyfriend (awwww, so cute), my brother who just had his last exams, my Mom enjoying the beauty products I brought her.....truly a fab weekend.

Frustrations: Had a job interview on Thursday morning in Lausanne, got the job (just a random job for ten days, to get some extra money), but was frustrated that I'm still being treated as a student and that I have to deal with BEEP (I cannot write this here right now). After that, I was sitting at a café at the trainstation in Lausanne and my wallet was almost stolen. Two random drunk or stoned guys, in their late twenties (this was at 10am) came to my table, talking crap, wanting to sit down with me at my table. I ignored them, continued to read my newspaper, with my handbag was on the chair next to me, which yeah, is stupid, but that's the way it was. I've learned my lesson now, trust me. A few seconds later I noticed that one of them was holding my wallet in his hands, trying to hide it under his jacket! All the people directly next to me must have seen this before me, because before that those two guys were standing in front of my table for some time, being quite loud, which must have caught their attention. But did these people react or yell or something? Nope. Thank God I noticed myself, so I jumped up, grabbed my wallet and cussed at him, saying something really bad in French. I was SO ANGRY!! Angry at him, angry at myself - also because afterwards, I didn't have the immediate reflex of calling the police, I was just shocked and glad I still had my wallet - but also angry at the people around me. Here I was, a young woman alone, in a business suit, wearing high heels, with my laptop next to me, TWO GUYS harrassing me, and nobody gives a shit! Instead of maybe thinking of helping me, all they can do is BLAME ME and ignore the situation! All this very Swiss lady in her fourties managed to do once those idiots were gone was to bend down to me, ask me in a teacherly voice if I was okay, telling me it was dangerous to leave my handbag on the chair right next to me! Lady, I know that myself, it was silly, but it happened! I really wonder how people around me would have reacted if I had looked "more Swiss", according to the usual definition. Would they have jumped out of their seats right away, or are they all jellyfish in general?

Sleep: Lots of healthy, relaxing sleep this weekend. And cute cats sleeping next to me as well...

...But not the only one

Thanks Sarita for the test! Of course I had to try it out as well, and got this:

You are The Star

Hope, expectation, Bright promises.

The Star is one of the great cards of faith, dreams realised

The Star is a card that looks to the future. It does not predict any immediate or powerful change, but it does predict hope and healing. This card suggests clarity of vision, spiritual insight. And, most importantly, that unexpected help will be coming, with water to quench your thirst, with a guiding light to the future. They might say you're a dreamer, but you're not the only one.

What Tarot Card are You?
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